#ARQ UNDIES HOW TO#

But honestly, the more I saw, the more I liked.

ARQ is one of those Instagram-darling brands that I started a love affair with because I saw so many ethical fashion influencers wearing their stuff. The one extravagant underwear purchase I made recently was a beautiful, organic cotton set from ARQ.

#ARQ UNDIES HOW TO#

Someone who didn’t consider how hard it is to feel sexy when you’re trying to figure out which weird lace strap goes where and how to get this one part to stop digging into your sensitive bits. Who designed this stuff? A dude, probably. I bought it to have something sexy and fun for my partner and I to enjoy, but every time I put it on I felt like an idiot. Is conventional lingerie the devil, or what? (Dad, this is a good place for you to stop reading) I used to spend money on “sexy” lingerie at Victoria’s Secret and then never, ever, wear it. They have good sales on holiday weekends, so that’s typically when I stock up. You can use my referral link for 20% off your first Pact purchase, and FYI, Pact does let you double up on discounts. They’re having a sale this weekend and they finally restocked most of their underwear sizes, so I might invest in a couple of thongs, because even though I don’t love thongs, sometimes an outfit simply requires one. In addition to the underwear, I also bought several pairs of leggings for hanging out around the house, two sports bras, and two gym outfits. I like that they make so many simple, comfortable styles, and in my experience, they really hold up. They’re a Fair Trade Factory certified organization, they use organic cotton in all of their products, and they have a fairly accessible price point. I bought two six-packs of bikinis, one all black pack and one pink-white-beige combo pack. I got very lucky during the Pact Black Friday and Cyber Monday sales and ended up buying about $100 worth of underwear for just over $12. They weren’t perfect for every situation, though, given the logo band, so I knew that going forward I wanted panties that were as plain and unadorned as possible. I had about five pairs of those, in black, white, and grey, and I reached for them often. The closest thing I had in my drawer to what I envisioned as the “perfect” underwear were my Calvin Klein bikinis, which have the cute little logo waistband and in general are very comfortable and well made (I live near a Calvin Klein outlet, so Matt and I stop in periodically for underwear – he wears Calvin Klein underwear almost exclusively). I don’t like boyshorts or hipsters or thongs. How to describe the anatomy of a good pair of underwear? For me, it’s a cotton bikini in a neutral color. Late last year, I decided that yes, every single pair of underwear in my drawer should be the good pair, and I set about making some big intimates investments. Why was I putting them back in the drawer? Why was I continuing to buy “cute” underwear that chafed or pinched or didn’t breath well or deformed immediately in the washing machine? Why did I let these panties exist in my underwear drawer for so long while I consistently chose “the good pair” over and over again instead? Shouldn’t all of my underwear be the good pair? The pair of panties that I would pick out of my underwear drawer and think “these are uncomfortable” before putting them BACK IN THE DRAWER and choosing another pair. There are affiliate and referral links peppered throughout the article, and I may receive a small commission and/or store credit if you make a purchase using one of those links. Just a disclosure before I begin: none of the products discussed in this post were gifted, and I don’t have a relationship with any of these brands. I have been on an underwear journey – away from plastic panties, the male gaze, and the 5-for-25 bin, and towards the organic cotton bikinis and feminist lingerie of my dreams. I wrote a few weeks ago about my experience with Thinx period underwear, and a reader asked if I would share more about my overall underwear drawer, since I seem to be on a bit of an underwear journey these days.

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